We all tend to spend a lot of time thinking about the problems in our relationships. This is natural, because when problems arise, they take up a lot of our emotional energy. We invest ourselves into our relationships, and when things go wrong it that area, it can feel like our whole LIVES are going wrong!
As a therapist and psychologist, I spend a lot of time thinking about relationship problems. This is not only my job, but also because this is why people come to see me – for help with problems!
However, I also believe that it is extremely important to pay attention to what GOOD relationships look like. For our relationships to succeed, we not only have to do things that are going to contribute positively to our relationships, we have to also acknowledge that things are going well!
With this in mind, I am writing a series of posts focused on those qualities a couple has that lead to a happy, healthy relationship. These qualities of good relationships do mean that these couples never fight, experience problems, or feel hurt by their partners – these are normal parts of relationships. Instead, they have implemented healthy and respectful ways of working through those difficulties.
I will begin my in-depth focus on some of these traits of positive relationships in my next post, but here is a taste of some of the topics I will be covering in coming weeks:
- Showing mutual respect in both attitude and action
- Regular intimacy (both physical and emotional) that is shared by only you
- Are always open and honest
- You have fun together
- Make all important decisions as a couple
- Dedication to supporting each other in all areas
- Recognizing need for independence outside relationship
- Willingness to compromise
- Dedication to listening and working through conflict in a respectful way
- Recognition that anger can be damaging if expressed in the wrong way
- Take accountability when they make mistakes
- Constantly work to show understanding and forgiveness
In the meantime, please consult a Salt Lake Relationship Center counselor about the positive or negative traits of your relationship. You can schedule an appointment or contact us with other questions. We look forward to hearing from you!