Over the course of counseling, much of what we will do is talk. Your therapist’s role is to listen, ask questions, make suggestions, and provide feedback in ways to help you gain understanding about yourself and learn new skills. Sometimes (with your permission) he/she will conduct in-session meditation or mindfulness exercises. Your therapist will also sometimes give homework assignments, where you will be asked to focus on a particular behavior or exercise outside of your meetings together. Overall, counseling is most successful if you can approach it with an open mind and a willingness to talk about and explore different components of your life.
While your therapist may encourage you to talk about things that might feel uncomfortable or difficult, he/she will never force you to discuss anything you don’t want to. You always get to choose what you are or are not willing to talk about.
We all have difficulties in life. Counseling is a place for you, without judgment, to explore those issues that are most important to you. Your therapist’s job is to be supportive and understanding, but also to be honest in identifying thoughts or behaviors that might be causing you further problems in your life. He/she is then trained to help you find new ways of approaching difficult issues, problematic behaviors, or troubled relationships. In summary, through talking and the support/feedback of your therapist, counseling leads you to have a deeper understanding of yourself, helps you to resolve problems, teaches you how to interact and have better relationships with others, and leads to an overall more satisfactory life.
In couples therapy the focus is on your relationship, rather than just you as individuals as part of a relationship. While it is still important to understand how your individual issues impact couple interactions, in couples therapy your counselor will always return to exploring how relationship dynamics, communication patterns, and behaviors are contributing to your issues as a couple. Your therapist will frequently lead in-session communication exercises, give homework assignments to practice new interaction styles, teach you problem-solving skills, and encourage openness, acceptance, and positive interaction. Overall, the goal is to foster a safe and productive environment for you to be able to better understand and change your relationship patterns.
In contrast, in individual therapy the focus is only on supporting you. You likely will talk about relationships you have with others, but the main goal is exploring and understanding yourself, and supporting YOU in living a happier and more satisfying life.
Please consider reading this excellent article, How to Get the Most from Couples Therapy, by Peter Pearson and Ellyn Bader of the Couples Institute in California. They lay out many important things to consider before entering couples counseling and help you establish a good mindset for this type of therapy.
No! The Salt Lake Relationship Center’s mission is to help people function better in all of their relationships. Examples include relationships with siblings, parents, friends, and co-workers. We believe that if you learn to better identify, act on, and communicate your needs and desires in general, you will have more genuine relationships in all areas of your life.
Absolutely! We believe that the foundation of all healthy relationships begins with having a healthy relationship with your own self. Therefore, a major part of the work we do here is with individuals. Specifically, we focus on helping individuals learn how to identify their true selves separate from what others expect them to be so that they can then communicate their needs and wants clearly with others.
Finding someone you trust to talk about your most personal information is an important and difficult choice, and unfortunately, there is no easy or “right” way to do it. There are endless faces and profiles out there. And it can be hard to ask for a recommendation. Who wants to go around telling everyone you are so depressed or anxious you can’t get out of bed or you just found out your wife has been cheating on? I wouldn’t want to do that….. you just want to find the right person, and know they can help. But how?
I encourage those seeking therapy to “trust your gut” when talking to a potential counselor or therapist to see if you feel that person is the right fit for you. This is because successful therapy is always based on having a positive relationship with your therapist. You must like, trust, and feel comfortable with your therapist, no matter how competent you think he/she is. Meet with a therapist for 2-3 sessions and if it does not feel like a good fit, ask for a referral to someone different. At the Salt Lake Relationship Center, we understand that not every client-therapist match is going to work every time, and we are always happy to help you find the best person for you, even if it means referring you somewhere else.
One important thing you should know is that unfortunately, almost no insurance plans will pay for couples or marriage counseling – it is considered to be a non-medical expense and therefore has to be paid for out of pocket.
For all other services (individual therapy, family therapy, group therapy) we are able to bill insurance and are happy to submit claims for you. However, please be aware that we are not preferred providers for almost all insurance plans. This means that you are responsible for our full fee at the time of therapy and your insurance company may reimburse you for some or all of that amount.
Our fees range between $125 and $185 per session, depending on which therapist you see. Please see the scheduler or contact us for more information.